Tuesday 15 July 2014

What Presses Your Buttons- Brigid Curran

March 24, 2014 at 10:20am
Peace comes to us when we realise that we are unable to fix people.
It is human nature to help, we feel an obligation to do the right thing by people.   When you are on your spiritual journey you feel even more obliged to help.
We all know what it means to set the right intention, the right intention in your eyes and mind. If that is your intent then be prepared to deal with the lesson that will be thrown at you.
How many times have you heard "it was not my intention" "it was only my best intention".   You often hear this when you realise that intention has not gone the way you anticipated.
When we set an intention we are asking for something, we  are actually asking to go on a journey.
Think about it!  Put an intention out there, or think of an intention you have put out there.  (heard the term, 'be careful of what you wish for")  You will get what you wish for. But it will come with lessons.
I put an intention out to the universe. I asked to work in an environment where I can use my intuition. Where I can use my ability to heal. I said " I would love a job where I can utilise my skills and help"  I wanted something different where I could help and make a difference, I needed  a challenge!.  How righteous was I to think I would have the ability to fix people!
I got that challenge, I gained that career where everyday I was faced with fear and anger.  The clients would look at me and on their faces I would see "fix me"
It took me a few weeks to look through the anger , fear and frustration of these people and it took me longer to realise that I could not fix them. 
You can give a person the tools to fix themselves, but it comes down to them.  (You can lead a camel to water but you cannot make it drink. I understand this saying now)
In your relationships how often has a person driven you mad.  You just wanted them to stop doing something so badly, it was so annoying.  "Why do they not realise how annoying they are" Why do they have such bad behaviour!!
Guess whose buttons are being pressed.  Hold up that mirror and look into it.  Why are they annoying you. What traits do you see in that person that you actually have!.
They are oblivious to their annoying or bad behavour, because it is only annoying  to you.
I wish they would stop that!!! I hear you say. With great conviction..  Is this an intention? An intention for them to stop annoying you?
Guess what! They will stop.  They will stop when you stop reflecting them.
If your buttons are being pressed, it is time for you too have a long hard look at yourself and ask yourself why?
The only person to fix is you!! Yes a very hard lesson to learn, no one likes to be told they have a problem imagine how distressing it is when you look at the mirror and see the problem is you.
Through your connections, if ever you want to change a person. Ask yourself this.
Why do they press my buttons?  What is it about them that drives me mad?
Find the answer.  Find the answer in yourself and change it.. Then thank that person for pressing your buttons to make you change